Love Info

In a relationship, you shouldn't depend on the man as much in a relationship and make sure that you have yourself together financially and educationally by securing yourself with a fall back in case you guys break up and he has all the money. You should be putting your name on most of the things, and having something to call your own instead of depending on the man to do it all for you and having an extra account that a man knows nothing about because every woman should have a secret account that you don't want your man to know about.

Ladies, don't ever give up everything for a man and don't sacrifice everything for a man because it will come back and haunt you in the end. Now some women love to depend on a man for everything and really don't have anything for themselves such as a car, an apartment, or even your own job.

Now gold digging wouldn't be a good idea and stealing from your man wouldn't be a bright idea at all and truthfully, depending on the man wouldn't be good as well and to tell you the truth, women need to start being a little bit more independent and being more powerful in the financial area. However, you should have a back up plan and never use the man as a crutch and lean on him for everything because he'll use it against you in the long run especially if you ever break up.

Have you ever seen a man and a woman and everything seems to be fine and he's the one that's pulling out his wallet for every occassion and she never kicks out any loot at all, and he's paying for everything? Well, in a case like this, the relationship won't last because if a man has to pay for everything and anything then most likely, he won't want to stay with her or take her serious, let alone marry her because she will leave him broke and she wouldn't be that person that he can depend on for anything at all which is just not cool at all, and if he does pay for everything, he will basically have the upper hand and will fix his lips and say something like, what I say goes because I'm paying for everything and you have nothing if he feels like telling her like it is.

Women, we have to start being smarter and showing the man that we're able to stand on our own two feet and don't need them for anything because they will walk all over you. I personally refuse to depend on a man cause when worse comes to worse, he might throw it back in my face and say, yes I'm running the show because you have nothing to call your own.  Don't you know that, that is the worst feeling in the world to have someone say those horrible things to you and I'm going to give you a perfect example about a certain situation; I once knew a guy, now I'm not going to mention any names, but he was basically a dude from the magazine industry and I found myself watching him closely because there was something about him that wasn't right and he had a lot of sneaky ways about him, but to make a long story short, I'm a highly intelligent successful writer on the rise and I'm into writing books and my articles and he tried to use my skill to his advantage to make himself look good in front of his boss by makiing me do all of his work for him and thinking that my work wasn't secure, so when it was time for him to pay me for my articles that I've written for him on fashion and style, he treated me differently like I was one of those dumb girls who can't think for herself as if I didn't know what I was doing, he didn't think that I was all set in the writing industry and all of my material is copywritten and secure so either way, even if he tried to get over on me, I'm two steps ahead of him because he can't re write it or say my material belonged to him when it didn't, I fixed him alright.

You see, the point that I'm getting at with this little story is that whatever you do or get into is secure in both ways, educationally and financially so that way if anyone does something for you and it ends up benefitting you in the future and you end up succeeding, no one can ever say I made her famous, or I made her into who she really is now. That's why it's very improtant to have your own, no ifs, ands, or butts about it and the same thing goes when you move in with someone, make sure you have your own money because if you break up with that person and he just happens to say get out now, instead of move out then you're just stuck with no place to live and then what, you'll end up having lots of regrets like, I should of never gave that up for him.

Don't you know that in relationships, nothing is ever promised to you cause sometimes promises never follow through and you should own up to your own responsibilties at all times and not letting anyone handle it for you cause it will be used against you in a negative way.

Things to do for yourself to not fall into the trap of leaning and depending on someone:

-Build your own career by learning a trade and get your education cause education is very important and always work hard at whatever you do in order to get ready for your future so that way, you don't need anyone.

-Formulate a plan for yourself and come with a career objective and do something that's going to get you where you really want to be in life.

-Get your act together

-Hold down a job so you can at least pay your way most of the time and save your money cause you never know when you'll have an emergency situation.

I knew a girl who wasn't finacially secure and started blaming others for her misfortune because she never did anything to secure her funds and continued to be jealous of other people who were doing better than her and eventually her man broke up with her because her man was the only one paying for everything and eventually, he got sick of it and broke up with her.

Women should always have their own money and have their own which means living independently without having to ask for anything so therefore, women we rule the world and we should always be financially independent without a doubt because you wouldn't want to be stuck in a rut depending on the man!

A man quoted to me: Most men have more respect for a woman who has her own, and handles her business.

So ladies, are you willing to really be that powerful woman that does everything for herself as opposed to the women who are out there to just call a man for every little thing, and doing absolutely nothing like the average high maintenance woman.

About the Author:

Newly published author/writer. A new writer of urban tales and fiction. My first book will be out this summer of 2008.